Sometimes clients say to me that they tried mindfulness but it's not really for them. Often people are being mindful without really even knowing it. Remember that mindfulness just means being in the present moment and noticing something. So there's probably lots of times each day when you're doing just that and you don't even realise it. For example:

• Walking in nature you might be noticing the sights, sounds, and sensations around you without even consciously trying to do so.
• Eating your favourite meal you might be noticing the flavours, the textures and being mindful of the experience.
• Listening to music, you're singing along to that song and listening to the melody and the rhythm of the music.
• Playing with your pet you might be throwing a ball or petting your dog noticing the feeling of the fur, noticing your pet's heartbeat.
• Listening to your friend and you're talking in a conversation you'll be really focused on what they're saying... noticing their body movements... leaning forward and paying attention and not distracted by other things.
• In the garden and you're pulling out those weeds, smelling the earth and feeling the sun on your back.
• Playing sport and you're 100% focused on the next point or hitting the ball....

So, as you can see, there's lots of different situations where you might be being mindful already and not even realising it. So first notice when you're being mindful and then try and extend those periods and increase the number of times per day where you're fully present and in the moment. When we are consciously in the present moment it helps us to get out of our own heads and redirects your mind off going over the events from the past (regrets) or worrying about the future. Staying in the present moment just like a 2 year old child.

​Lots of people have given mindfulness a go, but they don't really understand why it's important and how mindfulness helps. So let me explain to you the reasoning behind mindfulness.

Imagine a mouse walks into the room right now and I say the word 'cat'. Is the mouse going to feel scared? No, because the mouse doesn't have language so it doesn't understand that the word 'cat' represents danger. The mouse will not feel fear in the way that a human might if i shouted 'fire' or 'help, intruder' or 'snake'! The mouse won't feel fear in response to a word. If the mouse comes into the room and it sees a cat is physically present - it's going to feel fear and it's going to run away (flight) or freeze. The mouse is living in the present moment. The here and now. 

Small children are like the mouse. They live in the present moment. Imagine a 2 year old walking down the street. The toddler is going to stop and look at everything in wonder. It's going to be a slow walk.  The child is there, in the present moment. They're not going to be upset about what happened yesterday (regrets about the past) or worried about what's going to happen tomorrow (what ifs about the future). The child is not going to be thinking "oh, I shouldn't have said that to mum yesterday" or "Oh no, what if it rains tomorrow and I can't go to the park". The child, like the mouse, is going to be in the present moment.  They are only going to be upset if there is a here and now trigger. Like hunger, tiredness, thirst, or there's a big dog and they're scared.

Adult humans apparently spend 32% of our time either thinking about the past or the future. So on average we are in the present moment only 68% of the time. In life, we want to be more like the two year old.  Adult humans, have language and can therefore dwell on regrets from the past. Repeatedly going over events from the past can cause us to feel sad and regret. We tend to have a bias to recall negative events from the past over positive memories. We are more likely to have negative thoughts about the future and think about all the things that might go wrong (catastrophising or what ifs). Worrying about things that might happen in the future cause us to feel stress, fear, and anxiety.

So, that's why we need to try and be more like the two-year-old (or the mouse) and stay in the present moment. Ultimately, we don't really know (and we can't control) what's going to happen in the future. We can't change what's happened in the past. So today, try and be more like the two year old. Be in the present moment - looking at everything around you with an attitude of openness and curiosity and wonder (just like a small child). As though it's the very first time you've ever seen the world.

Let’s try out some simple ways to incorporate mindfulness into your life that don’t involve sitting cross legged in a quiet room for upwards of 30 minutes. Let’s face it, not everyone has time for long meditations. So in order to develop a mindfulness practice that can be maintained we need to find a way to incorporate our meditation into daily life. Lots of people use apps. You could try the free ones: smiling mind or headspace or purchase apps such as Buddhify which matches your mindfulness practise to different activities such as walking or eating or waiting in a queue. For a more comprehensive approach you may want to take a free trial of the Calm app which won health app of the year recently and has so many different options that you can try. From sleep stories to nature sounds to mindful meditations when you're experiencing strong emotions or distressing thoughts. The Calm app is like having your own mindful meditation teacher in your pocket. I personally use the Calm app to fall asleep at night just to clear my mind from the thoughts of the day and also to relax my muscles to promote more restful sleep. Some people prefer to do their meditation practise when they first wake in the morning particularly if they're feeling anxious or stressed about what lies ahead of them that day. It doesn't really matter when you practise mindfulness the main thing is finding a time of the day that makes sense to you where you have a few minutes and you're not likely to be distracted or interrupted and to just keep building on that practise. Try it out and see if it makes a difference. Being mindful could be as simple as just going for a walk around your neighbourhood and noticing the natural beauty around you. Notice the sky, the clouds, the sunset, the horizon. Notice the smells of the spring flowers, the gardens, the soil. Connecting with nature through what can you hear  - the birds, wind through the trees. Notice what you can feel - the warmth of the sun, your feet touching the ground, the cool breeze on your skin. Be in the present moment and notice the world around you. Being mindful can be as simple as that – just slow down and notice.

​Welcome to September, the first month of Spring where we will be focusing on Mindfulness and Growth Mindset! Spring is a season of hope and optimism, growth and new life, a time for renewal. Over the next month we will be exploring the concept of mindfulness and learning more about the benefits of adopting a growth mindset in life.
Many people have heard of mindfulness but what is it? Being mindful simply means to notice something. For example, you could be mindful of your breath, your thoughts, or the world around you. If you are being mindful you are living in the present moment. A simple way to be mindful is to slow yourself down. Walk, speak, and move more slowly and see what you notice.
You may have heard people talk about a “growth mindset”, but what is it?  Growth Mindset is a concept developed by psychologist Carol Dweck.  She believes that abilities, skills, and intelligence can be developed and improved over time with effort, learning, and perseverance. I have always believed that humans are innately good and that change is possible for anyone. Your unique life potential is not fixed but can be enhanced through dedication and hard work. Cultivating a growth mindset involves self-awareness, self-reflection, and a willingness to embrace challenges and learn from life experiences.
How does mindfulness relate to having a growth mindset?
Mindfulness practice can help us to develop a growth mindset through self-awareness, self-compassion, living in the present moment, and developing an accepting attitude towards life. A growth mindset can enhance the effectiveness of mindfulness by encouraging an attitude of curiosity, resilience, and the willingness to explore new ways of thinking and being.
Overall, the combination of being mindful and having a growth mindset can lead to greater personal development, increased well-being, and a more positive and adaptable approach to life's challenges.